Women & Romance.
Women don’t value Romance. Women require more than romance from a man, and perhaps even never. However, men value romance. Some men even over-value it. Western Men invented Romance to give them a chance against their Feudal Lords/Kings who were known to bogart all the fine women in their fiefdoms.
And it worked. The guy who has nothing, and has no future, now has skin in the game. If he can make himself more Romantic than the next guy (who’s got the actual resources to provide for a family), this little man too may have access to fine women.
And it worked well for young men in Europa and Euro-America, who basically had nothing, and who were not even matured enough to be with a woman. So long as the young man, or the man without resources, has something else (romance) to offer to a woman – no matter how intangible – we have a sexual market game.
You see, that crap does not work in Traditional Africa. Even with the importation of some of these western non-value systems. The families sit and vet the man as he needs to be vetted. And we also don’t have feudal Lords collecting all the fine women for themselves either! That stuff is primitive European attitudes often projected on African Kings.
But Romance has always been a bad deal for women else why the emphasis on it? If a powerful, resourceful, good-looking man was also Romantic, younger men and men without the resources to bogart a fine woman will have no chance. Why would they? Hence the belabored attitude to make men of good-standing often seem as though these men cannot be romantic as well! Take a cursory look into any western romantic novel, and it is always the resourceful, level-headed, intelligent, hardworking man who’s devoid of the ability to be romantic to a fine woman. The way of romantic drama is simply to pitch the man without great standing in society, but who can muster good-looks and something as intangible as Romance, against a great man in a contest. Else, there’s no drama to speak of or write about.
This is what I want my dearest niece to understand: Romance is a game men who have little skin in the game play. It is a trick-bag of making something as fleeting and as intangible as fairy-dust seem a whole lot more than it actually is: it is an absurd inflation of a man’s worth to look upon him as “romantic”.